The fear of being alone is far greater than the reality.
Are we ever truly alone? With the world of technology, we are able to connect with anyone, anytime and anywhere. But if desired, one can be solitary. Without others around, senses are heightened and allows seeing things without the overshadow of verbal distraction. The participant is a solo actor in the play of the world.
If you are walking with someone, what do you do? Have conversation, look at each other, communicate. But if alone, awareness of surrounding are so much greater. Are you fearful walking down a less desirable street when you have someone at your side? You may not even realize the potential danger. But walking alone, awareness of the smallest movement or noise may make you turn or hurry along your way. Sitting at home with family or friends and a bang is heard outside, conversation stops and everyone gets up to see what it is. But alone, heart rate increases, the door is locked and you look surreptitiously out an upper floor window.
Being alone can heighten the senses in a positive manner as well. If you are walking alone, the herd of deer may be frightened away by the noise of voices. But alone, you stop, gaze inquisitively into each other's eyes before the deer goes back to foraging. Out for a run, every time your foot contacts the ground there is a connection with the earth underneath - only you and the terrain you are covering.
We often believe we feel connected only by our relationships with other people. Human connections are a large component of life satisfaction, but a common phrase states "at the end of the day, it's just you and I". But what if there is no "you" to be with? Does that mean there is really no connection that is important? The underlying truth is that it is our relationship to the world and the energies it releases that really make us feel connected. How many times do we hear that people feel down when they feel no connection with the world around them. Not just alone, but lacking feeling of the environment they are part of?
In order to achieve so:u:litude and not loneliness, you must be receptive to the energies and be aware, keeping sensory channels open to connect to the world and live in the moment. If the focus is on yourself instead, success will be hampered by seeking happiness only in others. You do not need to be alone to find happiness, but practises such as meditation and silence can help find happiness in your own soul, not just in another being. So:u:litude will not be a constant state of awareness, connection or happiness, but it will come and go on a continuous cycle. The key aspect is to remain open, to stay open minded and to well, just be.